People

PEOPLE – is knowing that you’re significantly influenced by the people around you. Good people bring you up and bad people bring you down. It includes who you choose to admire, read, watch, and listen to. It’s knowing the difference between ‘real’ friends and ‘counterfeit’ ones. It’s also being a good friend, family member, and teammate. People are those who surround you.

How do we coach it? By being an excellent example of what a good friend/coach looks and acts like. Staying committed despite adversity, giving more than what is expected, and inciting others to higher levels.

Session #6 PEOPLE 9/16-10/9 Group Sessions of ~12 people CLICK HERE to Signup for Session


Pre-Session Preparation

  1. Watch this video online:

    How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste Headlee | 12:06 mins. You don’t need to learn how to look like you’re paying attention if you really are paying attention. Keep your mind open, talk to people, listen to people, and be prepared to be amazed!

  2. Listen to the 10 rules Celeste Headlee suggests. Which are you good at? Which can you work on? Why is this important to your success in life?

  3. Be prepared to share a Handshake experience so far that has made an impact on you


Other PEOPLE Resources

VIDEOS

  1. How to Have a Good Conversation | Celeste Headlee | 12:06 mins. You don’t need to learn how to look like you’re paying attention if you really are paying attention. Keep your mind open, talk to people, listen to people, and be prepared to be amazed!

  2. Aaron Doughty: How to Connect With Anyone: This Realization Changed My Life 6:02 mins. Drop the labels before engaging with someone.

  3. Simon Sinek on Learning How Not to Manage People 4:14 mins. We need empathy up and down the chain of command to feel safe.

  4. Simon Sinek Q & A: How Do Cell Phones Impact Our Relationships 12:57 mins. Faulty thinking that satisfaction in life, friendship, and fulfillment, happen immediately and they don’t…it takes time and unbelievable hard work. We need to change the behavior to change the thinking.

QUOTES - Choose a quote or short story from below that resonates with you. Be prepared to share in the group and why you chose that quote.

  1. Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future

  2. Stop hanging around people who support your bad habits. Instead surround yourself with people who want you to succeed and push you to do so.

  3. Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much - Helen Keller

  4. To go fast go alone; to go far go together - African Proverb

  5. The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people - Teddy Roosevelt

  6. Hire for attitude, train for skills

  7. Keep courtesy and consideration for others foremost in your mind

  8. Laugh with others, never at them

  9. A good leader takes a little more share of the blame, a little less share of the credit - Arnold H. Glascow

  10. A leader should never forget that everyone needs encouragement. And everyone that receives is changed by it - John Maxwell


PEOPLE Session

9/16-10/9 Group Sessions of ~12 people CLICK HERE to Signup for Session
Session #6 Printable PEOPLE Session Materials

Purpose of the Session: Understanding the meaning of PEOPLE and the impact it has on success.

AGENDA (~1-2 hours)

I. Welcome from the Host (include description/background of host/host company) (~5 minutes)

II. Check-in (each individual with the whole group) (~10 minutes)

  1. Introduce yourself: State your Name, School/Company, Sport.

  2. State your mindset coming into the meeting (share something about your day, or recent happenings in your life).

  3. Prepare to be in this moment, engaging and listening to others.

III. Quick Review of Handshake America’s Five Practices of Success (~5 minutes)

IV. Discussion (~30 minutes)

  1. How would you summarize the message from the assigned video? If you reviewed any of the other videos or stories, what are your takeaways?

  2. THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU

    A common response from those who achieve greatness is their acknowledgement that they had great people around them. We believe that means the people above, below, beside, and with you.

    a. Above you: good leaders, mentors, bosses, and coaches

    b. Below you: people whose role is to support you

    c. Beside you: people who are working along side you

    d. With you: people who genuinely care about you

    DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

    What are examples of four types of people around you (in sports and life)?

    Who are these great people in your life?

    How can you make sure they continue to stay “around” you?

3. YOUR PERSONAL “MOUNT RUSHMORE”

Mount Rushmore in South Dakota was sculpted to honor the roles of four U.S. presidents who played a significant role in the development of our country. There are likely people who played a significant role in the development of you.

DISCUSSION QUESTION:

Who would be on your “personal Mount Rushmore” and why are they on it?

4. THE IMPACT OF MOBILE PHONES

The mere pres­ence of mo­bile phones in­hib­ited the de­vel­op­ment of in­ter­per­sonal close­ness and trust. They diminished the ex­tent to which in­di­viduals felt em­pa­thy and understanding from their partners.

- 2016 validation study published by Vir­ginia Tech researchers

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

Why do you think the presence of mobile phones can have a negative impact on interpersonal relationships?

How could you improve your personal results?

5. TRIBALISM

College graduates are beginning to clus­ter to­gether—to work with each other, live near each other, social­ize with each other, marry each other, have chil­dren just like each oth­er’s chil­dren, start­ing a cycle over again. Consequently, they seg­regate from fellow cit­i­zens. They should re­sist this tendency and make spe­cial ef­forts to con­nect with those who have different backgrounds. It’s a shame to go through life with a nar­row range of hu­man in­teractions and all one can learn from those who are dif­fer­ent from ourselves.

But over these last few years this new self-seg­re­gation has taken on a much more wor­ri­some dimension. It’s no longer just a mat­ter of Americans not know­ing and un­der­stand­ing each other. We’ve seen these clus­ters deepen, and harden, un­til sep­a­ra­tion has led to anger, mis­un­der­standing turned into hos­til­ity. At the in­di­vid­ual level, it’s a for­mula for bit­ter­ness and neg­a­tiv­ity. For a self-governing people, it’s poi­son. The grand­est chal­lenge for your lead­er­ship years may well be to re­verse and sur­mount this threat.

Peo­ple have be­gun to use the word “trib­al­ism” to de­scribe this phe­nomenon. To peo­ple who have only known free­dom and self-gov­ern­ment, it’s easy to for­get that trib­al­ism was the way of the world for most of his­tory. An­thro­pol­ogists long ago dis­cov­ered that our hu­manoid an­cestors formed tribes for sur­vival, and re­sponded vi­o­lently to the pres­ence of out­siders. Life in a tribe is easy, in all the wrong ways. You don’t have to think. Whatever the tribe thinks is right, what­ever the other side thinks is wrong. There’s no real re­spon­si­bil­ity; just fol­low what the tribe, and who­ever speaks for it, says to do. The men and women of Handshake America aren’t made for tribes.

- the President of Purdue University’s 2018 Commencement Address - adapted for Handshake America

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:

Have you ever felt you were part of a “tribe”?

How does the Handshake America program help address “self-segregation”?

How could you connect with those with different backgrounds?

V. Activity Thanking others; Inspiring & Influencing others; Remembering Names (~ 20 minutes)

VI. Quotes (~ 15 minutes)

  1. Take 5 minutes by yourself to review the Quotes from above in the Other PEOPLE Resources section.

  2. Privately write your favorite quote down on a piece of paper and give to the facilitator who will gather everyone’s favorite quote.

  3. Once all favorites are turned in, share the quote you chose with the team and why you chose it.

  4. Did everyone chose the same quote or different quotes?

VII. Announcements (~10 minutes)

  1. Announce any key accomplishments that have recently occurred amongst anyone present.

  2. Now accepting 2020 Handshake Student applications! Spread the work to coachable junior student-athletes with grit. Information and application on website at: https://www.handshakeamerica.org/students. Due November 15th.

  3. Additional Special Scholarship opportunities will be available toward the end of the year. There may be one specifically for PEOPLE. Be thinking about your practice of PEOPLE and how it impacts success in you and others. Specific application information will be announced in November.

  4. Now accepting 2020 Handshake Coach applications! All returning coaches please apply (follow instructions on the application for the short version) so we have a firm idea of who is planning to return. Please also recruit friends/colleagues/acquaintances. Information and application on website at: https://www.handshakeamerica.org/coaches. Due by October 25th.

VIII. Check-out (either in pairs or with the whole group) (~10 minutes)

  1. What’s one thing you took away from this session?

  2. Do you have room to improve your PEOPLE?

  3. How could you apply what you’ve learned into your daily life in order to practice your PEOPLE?